Who do you hang out with?
I used to hang out with the people I was dysfunctional with on a regular basis, that made it easy for me to write about my personal experiences and dealing with both my self destructive behavior and the dysfunctionals I spent my days and nights with. I've come to the conclusion that you can't be dysfunctional in a vacuum, you need someone to agree with you if you're to really do dysfunction and get it right.
While I did experience helping people less dysfunctional than me by showing by example that a foul up who was just like them could pull themselves up and out by their own bootstraps, I did eventually have to get away from the proximity to drugs.
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I'd gone from daily use (cocaine as a means to further sex addiction as a function of love addiction) to once a week to twice a month and could not get completely sober until I removed my self totally.
"Hockey Players don't hang around with Chess Players"
John Bradshaw
"If you don't want to slip, stay away from slippery places"
anonymous 12 step saying.
"People who don't go to meetings don't hear about what happens to people who don't go to meetings"
anonymous 12 step saying.
Having gotten away from the dysfunction has had pros and cons associated with it:
PRO - I'm now at 140 days consecutive sobriety
I'm not at all ashamed of the 4 months of once a week, and dwindling down to twice a month... but totally clean is great, I have to say.
CON- I'm finding it harder to write about dysfunction, in a manner that dysfunctional people can relate to. When I was one of them, it was easier. I'm still one of them but I'm a lot, LOT better off now as compared to then.
Which brings me to the crux of this post's main idea:
Rehab and 'programs' offered by Governmental agencies are MORE dysfunctional than the people they are ostensibly attempting to help. The schools are churning out idiots with social working degrees... and the social working jobs are hiring them.
The entire concept of 'social work' has become a cottage industry
I'm of the opinion, based on the people I've seen in this field and the people I've seen taking this in college... that social work is seen as a cushy job for slackers.
If you go to http://google.com and type in social working, before you even get the entire sentence completed you see millions of possible results... all biased towards helping YOU get into this billion dollar industry with the governments blessing, and a virtually unlimited number of possible 'patients' or 'clients'.
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As a journalist, I'm bound to protect my sources.
I've heard from the people who's job it is to "process" teen delinquents, it's heart breaking the stories I've been told. The fools in charge of 'social work' don't give a damn about the kids, their families, the public... they only care about retiring from their cushy job.
The text books teach garbage, who writes that crap?
Would you want a drug counselor that never used?
think about that for a moment.
No where do they teach Family Systems Theory.
They still teach B.F. Skinner for Christ's sake.
Wikipedia has this to say about the definition of social work:
Social work is a discipline involving the application of social theory and research methods to study and improve the lives of people, groups, and societies. It incorporates and uses other social sciences as a means to improve the human condition and positively change society's response to chronic problems.
None, not one, not a single social worker I've ever seen or heard about did a damn thing to positively change anything other than their time clock.
All of societies miscreants and all of the disaffected would be served well if the people charged with ameliorating their suffering read the following book.
Adult Child's Guide to What's Normal==========
This article is for informational purposes only.
Please contact a licensed professional in your area
if you are in crisis or require mental health services
David Bruce
Healthy Boundaries & Victim Behavior
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1 comment:
Honestly, I think you have run into some people how have been in the profession for too long. Basically, and unfortunately, these people have probably seen that same unchanging reaction from people and they might have lost faith in humans. I'm sorry to here you think so poorly of social work, but it is unfair to generalize and assume you've gotten the whole picture by just a few experiences. By the way, take it from someone who has taken the courses, family centered models are very much embedded into our curriculum. In the end, in any situation, it is up to the person to practice the things they have so called learned.
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