How about love addiction... that's a codependent trait if ever there was one.
And popular culture most definitely reinforces it.
Want to know how and where?
MoTown
Country Music
That's right, popular music teaches us (at a very young age I might add)
that it's Normal to be love addicted.
Now a healthy person (person with functional boundaries would simply leave a relationship that obviously caused them more pain than it was worth!
Not a love addict.
"I'll be over at ten you told me time and again... but your late... you let me down again"
"I took a Louisville Slugger to his tail lights..."
Need I say more?
The only way to un do this is to 'install' new behaviors to over write the programming.
Fold your arms (fold your arms the way you always do, do it without thinking about it)
Now:
Fold them 'the other way' (if your right hand was pointing up on your left forearm, swap em, put your LEFT hand up on your right forearm)
Feels Funny doesn't it?
This crap is NOT set in stone... just reinstall the software, reinstall 'windows' over top of it self... wipe out or cover up the old family of origin script and replace it with a new one.
ONE YOU choose, not one that you mindlessly allowed to be installed while listing to MoTown.
(Damn, I really do like that song, the melody at least... I LOVE MoTown)
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This article is for informational purposes only.
Please contact a licensed professional in your area
if you are in crisis or require mental health services
David Bruce
Healthy Boundaries 4 Codependents
