From an interesting exchange I recently had by posting to verbalabuse.com forum
I really, really learned something extremely useful from the above exchanges on verbalabuse.com
It hadn't occured to me that a person who is in the clutches of Victim Behavior would see the information
provided on http://victimbehavior.blogspot.com and think that they were BEING ABUSED????
Especially this response to my posting (which stirred up much controversy, and I got called a troll ??)
quote:
"I think sometimes people think taking responsibility is the same as taking blame. it's not.
We are never to blame for being abused.
However, if we choose to live with it we have to take responsibility for that decision.
In other words, accept that you are there and plan for how to cope, and stop expecting anything to be different.
Stop being surprised and disappointed that nothing about the VA'er changes"
(a VA'er is a verbal abuser)
She said it better than I did, Thanks Becky!
more later
Manipulation Causes Victim Based Thinking
7 years ago
